Becoming Debt Free in 2009

January 8, 2009

The List

Filed under: Budget,Shopping — ambercouric @ 10:14 pm
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This afternoon my son gave me a list of a few things he needed before classes start back next week.  I expected the list to contain typical college stuff – notebooks, pens, etc. but it was a list of almost a full wardrobe.

  • 4 Pair of pants – 2 should be jeans
  • 4 Shirts – should be long sleeves
  • tan socks
  • Leather coat
  • Navy blazer
  • Tan or light color blazer
  • Casual Dress shoes

He thought I could just run out and buy all of this today.   I think he has forgotten that there is NO store that carries jeans his size.  He is 6’2 and is very thin.  I have had to order his pants online for several years.  Also, I just bought tennis shoes a couple of days after Christmas so you would think that he would have mentioned that he needed some other things.

He likes quality clothes but doesn’t like for his clothes to have a brand logo that can be seen.  I honestly don’t think he considered for a second the cost of these clothes.  Hopefully, the sales will be good when I go out tomorrow.  I need to set a realistic budget and determine what he really needs and what he just wants.  I think maybe I should make him shop with me so he can see how much work and money a list like this can be.

He did offer to let me take his debit card to pay for the clothes but the least I can do is buy him some clothes since I really don’t pay for any of his day to day expenses. 

By the way, I don’t think he will be getting the leather coat – $300+ is NOT in the budget.



  1. Oh how I know this whole senerio! My son will tell me he needs something and will expect it that day. lol! what are they thinking?

    My son is 6′ and very skinny. i buy him pants but when they are long enough, they are too wide. Where do you buy your pants from online, if you don’t mind?

    And as for the leather coat… of course, it is by nature that they must try to squeeze it in. 😉

    Comment by money funk — January 8, 2009 @ 11:47 pm

  2. LOL. If he “needs” all of that, I would like to know what he has been wearing for the last semester. lol.

    As a semi-recent college student, I would like to know how often he does laundry. Most of the guys at my school would leave HUGE piles of dirty clothes in the laundry room. Then their mothers would show up and they would see how many clothes they had. My guess is that this list is mainly a result of not wanting to do laundry very often. I could go about 10 days without doing laundry if I had as many clean clothes as were on that list.

    Comment by Stephanie — January 8, 2009 @ 11:47 pm

  3. I agree that your son doesn’t realize how much his shopping list costs. And I think it’s a great idea to make him shop with you. You’ll be training him for his future wife!

    Comment by shtinkykat — January 9, 2009 @ 12:43 am

  4. I don’t mean to sound harsh…but when I was in college, I bought my own clothes. I would NEVER have given my mom a list of clothes I needed/wanted and expect her to get it for me. If I really truly NEEDED say, a new pair of jeans that I couldn’t afford, I would have nicely asked her if she would mind giving me the money for a pair. But I wouldn’t expect her to a)go out and purchase them for me, or b)fund an entire wardrobe. He should have asked for these things for Christmas.

    Comment by Heather — January 9, 2009 @ 1:29 pm

  5. Second hand leather coat?

    I saw one for $50 instead of $300… and it was buttery soft

    Fabulously Broke in the City
    Just a girl trying to find a balance between being a Shopaholic and a Saver…

    Comment by Fabulously Broke — January 9, 2009 @ 3:37 pm

  6. Leather jacket – definitely a want not a need, but a boy has to try! When I was in college I paid for most of my clothes but my parents did help out some, especially when it came time to buy a work wardrobe. Work attire can be expensive and my internships didn’t pay enough.

    Comment by Miss M — January 9, 2009 @ 3:41 pm

  7. @ Money Funk – the leather jacket probably won’t happen. As for his pants and jeans – I order from Old Navy, Aeropostle or somewhere like that – they have 30/34’s online but not in stores. If the waist is still a little big depending on style we have the waist taken in.

    @shtinkykat – he has no idea how much clothes cost. I honestly don’t know if he has ever shopped. He wold go online and pick out styles and tell me what he liked. The girls in AE used to laugh because I always took back half of what I bought because he didn’t like it.

    @ Stephanie – good question – it is still warm here so he has been wearing shorts mostly. As far as the laundry goes, I’m sure he could do it more often.

    @ Heather – he offered to pay- “Just take my debit card, Mom”. He doesn’t like to shop so I go for him. He has a full scholarship and uses his own money for spending. As I said in the post the least I can do is buy him some clothes.

    Comment by Debtfree2009 — January 9, 2009 @ 3:46 pm

  8. I know exactly how you feel. Other than the coat, the list doesn’t seem that bad to me. I did the same thing with my son when he was home at Christmas. I think taking him along probably is a good idea, in addition to seeing the cost of clothes, maybe you’ll have an enjoyable afternoon together!

    Comment by SimplyForties — January 9, 2009 @ 9:59 pm

  9. Wow.. I’m out of touch I think. I don’t buy my grown kids clothes anymore. I do give them a little money for b-days and Christmas though. I guess I’ve bought my own since I was about 15, I figure they should too.

    Comment by pokeberry mary — January 10, 2009 @ 9:01 am

  10. When I was growing up, if I wanted something that wasn’t necessarily a need (i.e. if I wanted a brand name when the store name would have filled the need just fine) my parents would pay the amount of the brand they were willing to purchase and I had to pay for the difference. So if I WANTED $120 running shoes and the no-names were $50, I had to pony up $70 if I really wanted them.

    Comment by Money Minder — January 10, 2009 @ 1:24 pm

  11. Haha – I laughed so hard at this list… leather jacket… so funny. I would definitely take him along to make sure that you get the stuff he likes and don’t have to do any returns, etc., with the added bonus of him realizing just how much work this is! I’m sure your son appreciates it though… very kind of you to buy him clothes. I know I sure appreciated any help I got when I was a student!

    Comment by Saver Queen — January 10, 2009 @ 5:16 pm

  12. I’m so sorry, I feel like a jerk. I honestly missed that part where you said he offered to pay. My apologies. It’s just that I honestly can’t even tell you when the last time my mom bought my clothes for me…I guess it’s a girl thing!

    Comment by Heather — January 11, 2009 @ 5:12 pm

  13. @ Heather – no problem. The first thing I thought was how many teenage boys have you shopped with. I honestly don’t know of any of my son’s friends that shop for themselves.

    Also, I did order the pants and jeans online. Found shirts on sale. Bought the shoes and socks. DID NOT buy the blazers or leather coat.

    Comment by Debtfree2009 — January 11, 2009 @ 8:33 pm

  14. Thank you for being the first commenter on my blog. I just wanted to say that my 16-year-old just got taller than me this year. And he’s also about 6’1″ and skinny as a pencil. So I know what it is like trying to get clothes for the boy who grows 6″ every year and weighs less than a tiny woman. 🙂

    Comment by 444 — January 12, 2009 @ 2:05 pm

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