Becoming Debt Free in 2009

October 26, 2008

A Question for All – Please Give Your Opinion

Filed under: Giving,Shopping — ambercouric @ 11:43 am
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Gift cards make the perfect gift.  Right?  I so want to give only gift cards to all the adults on my Christmas list this year.  I don’t want  to seem tacky or like I don’t care enough to put thought into the presents.  The truth is many of the people on my list are family that we rarely see (only at Christmas) and I know absolutely nothing about them.  Sure I can go and buy something that suits my taste but they probably hide it in the closet and sale it at the summer yard sale.

If I could convince our family to stop exchanging gifts that would be perfect.  Unfortunately,  that hasn’t worked.  I usually spend hours shopping for family and I really just don’t want to do that this year.

How do you put a stop to all the gift exchanges that you don’t want to participate in?

Do you like receiving gift cards for Christmas?  What store would you most like to receive a gift card for?



  1. LOVE Gift Cards!!! They are great to give & also to get — Have you told all of your family memebers that you really don’t want to exchange gifts? Maybe tell them that you really don’t mind if they all exchange gifts around you, but you just choose not to be a part of it? My in laws wanted to bring back the adult exchange (we haven’t done it since all the kids were born) when they had asked how we all felt about it – we told them that we aren’t interested & wouldn’t be offended if they do it without us… we also said that it seems more & more like we are losing the feelings of Christmas – lets just let the kids enjoy it ~ us adults can just enjoy some good company – great food & a nice glass of wine…

    Good Luck

    Comment by jpkittie — October 26, 2008 @ 9:08 pm

  2. It’s probably just me but I really don’t like gift cards. You would not believe how many of those cards never actually get redeemed, and the store keeps the money. Taking perfectly good money and turning into something that can only be spent at a specific store limits what one can do with it.

    Regarding gift exchanges for adults, I don’t think it’s bad to not do them. Being able to spend time with people you rarely see has far more value than the things you could buy (and what they’ll re-gift next year) for them.

    Comment by Jim ~ — October 27, 2008 @ 9:59 am

  3. Most of our family has agreed to stop exchanging gifts. However, when we do receive gifts, I’d say we prefer gift cards the most. Not only do they allow you to get something you’ll actually use, it’s fun to do some free shopping.


    Comment by 1MansMoney — October 27, 2008 @ 2:25 pm

  4. I’m not sure how to put an end to them at alllllll, but i do know that i’m with jpkittie in that i absolutely LOVE gift cards too! There hasn’t been a card that i haven’t spent 😉 Even if it were to a store that i don’t like, i can always find something there – like presents to buy for someone else! haha…

    I like Starbucks and Barnes & Noble Cards the best.

    Comment by Budgets are Sexy. — October 27, 2008 @ 2:26 pm

  5. Give gift cards that are very generic and bound to be used. Like Tim Horton’s (not sure where you live) – around here they are huge hits!

    Agree with the no gifts between adults, especially if you only see them at Xmas. I would talk to whoever’s “in charge” of the get together, or establish a dollar limit. When all else fails, a nice box of chocolates (something that most people love, like turtles) goes over just fine.

    Comment by MadeMistakes — October 27, 2008 @ 3:52 pm

  6. Thanks for the input. I have tried many times to stop the exchanges between adults but nobody will listen to me.

    As MadeMistakes mentions a box of chocolates (or choc. covered pecans for our area) would actually be less expensive and but would also be one stop shopping.

    I’m going to think about this some more.

    Comment by ambercouric — October 27, 2008 @ 7:01 pm

  7. How about getting a universal gift card like American Express or Visa? Or I-tunes or Amazon or Starbucks?

    I personally am not offended by giving or getting a gift card. However I am picky about the amount: if it is less than twenty dollars then I have issue especially for stores that the cheapest item is fifty bucks on sale. Then it is really not a gift, its a partial buy.

    As for gift exchanges, I say institute secret santa. If that does not appeal tell them you are looking to clear your debt load as the economy turns bad. Most people should understand that…

    Comment by Spendthrift — October 28, 2008 @ 3:06 pm

  8. If I decide to do the gift cards each card will be for either $25 or $50 depending on the amount we would normally spend. Also, I was thinking of giftcards for Barnes & Noble for the readers, Target for the shoppers, or a restuarant for those older people who like to eat out.

    Comment by ambercouric — October 28, 2008 @ 7:18 pm

  9. I love Gift Cards! Then I can chose to buy what I want. No one’s feelings are hurt, it’s great! I even prefer them for clothing stores for my 4 1/2 year old daughter. We don’t have a lot of the same stores here in GA as my in-laws do in CA.

    Comment by Courtney — November 25, 2008 @ 7:29 pm

  10. Probably too late for this, but – We stopped exchanging gifts. Over the summer at one of the family get togethers we casually mentioned that we were simplifying our lives and that we decided that we would not exchange gifts. We made sure to emphasize that we did not want people to buy us things, and that we would not be offended if they continued to exchange with each other.

    Amy Dacyczyn has a great article in The Tightwad Gazette about how to approach family about this very thing. We pretty much followed her advice. :o)

    Comment by Krista — December 8, 2008 @ 12:01 am

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